I don’t write here very often, but when I do, you know it will be about something big, drastic, amazing, emotional, and any other adjective you can think of that would relay the gravity of my random life updates.
The last time I published, I had taken a work assignment back in San Francisco with a young tech start-up. Yes, I was lured by grand ideas, seemingly limitless potential and of course… lots of money.Well, as most of the techies and entrepreneurs in Silicon Valley can tell you or will soon find out, unicorns still don’t exist.
At the start of the new year, I returned to Hong Kong. I was feeling a bit deflated, unsure, and cautious. I didn’t really know if it was the right choice but I felt I owed it to myself as well as others to give it one more try and not let the sudden departure from last July be my final chapter abroad.
I took a position with a great company within their marketing department and started to try and settle back into my life. Sadly, that was the end of positive waves the universe sent me. I won’t bore you with the details, but I’ll sum up by saying that a handful of circumstances and experiences that was crowned by the fast and very harsh deterioration of my long-term relationship put me into a bad spiral. I questioned everything I was doing here, made some bad decisions and began to severely miss my family and friends back in the States.
It’s always a horrible feeling to have bad things happen to you. I’m starting to believe that it is an even worse ordeal to see things happening, feeling powerless to stop it and having to make what, at the time, seems like the impossible decision to either keep going or finally toss in the towel and move on.
3 years to the day of my initial arrival in Hong Kong (funny enough), I’m making a painful choice. I am closing out this chapter of my life to return home. I would say that this choice to return to the United States feels even harder than the choice to leave was. Yes, I have regrets. There are many things I wish could have done differently but ultimately that’s life. We can’t control it. We can only make the best of it. While we all wish life was nothing but beers and beaches, it’s the difficult times that we learn the most from and they end up having the biggest impact on defining who we are.
My time here has taught me so much that I would not trade it for anything and I still strongly recommend that everyone spend at least 1 year abroad at some point in their lives… the earlier the better. Being exposed to new lands, different cultures, new ways of business and diverse friends has been the biggest eye-opening time of my life.
Farewell Hong Kong.